Why be a coach?

Why be a coach?

Yea yea I have corporate america financial services work experience, but your occupation doesn't define you. At work we talk a lot about emotional intelligence, and the lack thereof! There is a lot of emotional work in parenting. The sacrifices stack up from day one - let’s start with sacrificing your body. I don't say that in a vain way - as in sacrificing your figure. But rather...your body is no longer at your leisure - i.e. you need to avoid certain foods, you shouldn't go out drinking alcohol anymore, you should sleep a certain way etc the list goes on! So here you are, 6 weeks into this pregnancy and with a ton more sacrifices on the way! I want to be a motherhood coach because I want to encourage others to not unconsciously parent your children in the same way you were parented, unless of course you had a wonderful flawless upbringing with no trauma - congrats to you! But in all seriousness, those traumas’ and lessons actually mold you and make you resilient and are the key to your success. Often times though, we go through life not looking to find the key to our life's purpose. I am doing this work because it is my truest calling. I am a nurturer. I unlocked that nurturing (of self and other) by way of being resilient is my key to success. 

 Being resilient is defined as the capacity to recover quickly from difficulties; toughness. The ability of a substance or object to spring back into shape; elasticity. You see, that body that you are sacrificing, it will “spring back into shape”, and through that body you will be able to sustain life. For all my daughters, sisters and mamas in the world: Your body is a temple. You feed it the right way and it produces milk to feed and sustain your child's life! You continue to feed it the right way and it gives birth to a new earth. I wasn’t able to give birth to my daughter naturally. So I’ve maybe overcompensated in other ways when raising her…but the truth about birth is we birth both who we are and who this world is becoming. We are all human, we all need to learn why we are on this earth and deliver our gifts to each other. When you become a parent you really need to know how to meet someone's needs. You may have even more of a difficult time doing that if you don't know how to meet you own needs. You have to be able to “fill your cup” if you are constantly going to be giving - giving at home, at work, and to yourself, to your partner, to your friends, to your family! The fact is getting to that balance is hard as heck! But if you love yourself, know your self worth, have courage, and show empathy, you will get out on the other side. At the end of the day don't we all just want the same thing resilient, strong, smart children? 


Marilys Vega